They say your school days are the best days of your life, but I disagree. It’s unneeded stress and faking being nice to people you want to stab in the eye with a pencil. I hated school with a passion, by 3rd year I was already looking at options to leave and move on from that God-awful place. In light of that however, I wanted to share my tips on how to survive school…
1. Stick up for yourself
This is number 1 because to me it’s the most important to get through school with. I stayed so quiet if something seemed off, or was wrong and I regret it so much. Sometimes people don’t realise something isn’t right or feel the same but are too scared to speak up and if you’re not going to say something then the harsh reality is nothing will change.
2. Say yes to things
I’m not talking sneak out of the house and go to a field party that will inevitably be shut down by the police. But if a friend suggests you go out after school and get some food or join a sports team – do it! I never took enough of these chances and at 18 I’m looking back on my younger years regretting not doing more.
3. Have confidence in yourself
From a very young age I’ve always been incredibly shy, purely because I didn’t want to do something wrong or make an embarrassment of myself – well jokes on me now because all I do is make an embarrassment of myself (not even a joke, I average about 5 moments a day). So, my advice is just go out there and make a complete idiot of yourself, laugh about it and be confident. Everyone messes things up and makes mistakes!
4. Don’t be so hard on yourself
School is tough. There’s no point in beating around the bush with this one – secondary school is especially hard and you’re going to feel like you’re not good enough quite a lot but remember that you are going to get through it – no matter what factors decide to jump in your path. Live the phrase “when the going gets tough, the tough get going.”
5. Tell your teachers and friends how you’re feeling
A lot of people in school these days bottle their feelings up then randomly burst into tears because they’ve dropped their pencil or forgotten their book. When I started doing this my dad noticed it and explained it to me in a really simple way: imagine your brain as a glass and everything that’s happening and you’re not sharing is the water filling the glass up. Then, finally, one tiny amount of water makes the glass overflow. The best way to prevent this from happening is to talk to someone – just say you’re a little under the weather or stressed… you can guarantee they’ll be in the same boat or know how to help.
6. Don’t react to bullies
I don’t think this one needs explaining, and if it does refer to 1 and 5. Failing that give them a smack.
7. Be organised
Everyone has times where their lives are falling apart and they have homework coming from left, right and centre and it feels like you’re going to pass out with all the work you have left to do. The best way I found to get over this was writing a list of everything, and keeping a clean room / work area!
8. Eat 3 meals a day – minimum
Have breakfast, have lunch, have dinner, have an afternoon snack. You can’t function if you’re hungry.
9. Don’t expect school to be like it is in films
Watch the inbetweeners if you want a realistic impression of school in the UK. Make school what you want to remember.
10. Have fun
Although your school days will be filled with teenage angst, you’re spending time there and you need to make it happy and somewhat enjoyable. Get friends that have you crying with laughter on a daily basis. You’ll want to look back in 10 years’ time and see the good, not just bad.